It seems I'm always off-season from everyone. When everyone else has caught the love-bug, I'm just chillin' like a villain or going through a terrible break-up. But the moment I find someone who gives me the love-bug, everyone is being cured of their sickness.
I can recall back in February when I went through a terrible break-up-- at least four new couples came together within the next month or so. Though I wasn't faking any smiles (I genuinely am happy whenever my friends do find a significant other), I couldn't help but think, "Damn, why can't I find a relationship like that?" (I'm also notorious for my good intention relationships going terribly wrong-- ask anyone, it's really not my fault, I just used to be a jerk magnet >.<)
And now that I've finally found a guy who's worth my time, who treats me right, and pretty much gives me my ideal relationship despite the distance, three of my close friends have gone through break ups.
There was Francisco and his break up with his girlfriend of three years, Laurie and the God-awful break up with her boyfriend of... 5 months, I think. short term or not, a lot went into that relationship and the break up hurt her pretty badly. And then there's my friend Lorena, who just broke up with her boyfriend of three years over a ridiculous fight.
Can't people just hold it together? Two of those break-ups could've been easily prevented, if people were just willing to try instead of give up at the first sign of trouble. I mean... Really? If you really, truly love someone, you should be willing to make it work, no matter what, right?
The negative to this though is that some couples who really do need to break up simply won't. All they do is fight over the most ridiculous things, take their misery out on everyone... Yet still stay together. Why? The glory days of that relationship are gone, they went out the window when your girl started getting all googly-eyed with other guys or when your boy there started tearing down your self-esteem.
Relationships are such complicated things, but they don't have to be. Compromise, talk it out, don't let the little things get to you. Not everything has to be an ultimatum upfront, but if the problem does persist, you may want to reconsider things.
Eh. I guess all I can do is learn from my past mistakes, watch other people's unfold, and make damn sure not to do the same in my own relationships. Because believe it or not, some people are worth fighting for and keeping. And if in the end I do lose the fight, at least I can say I gave it a good effort.
Lol, that's so weird... maybe you're CURSED!!! Uh-oh, better get married before all your friends do... lol ;D
And I definitely agree about the relationships not having to be difficult things. It's ridiculous how crazy some people can get - unnecessarily!
Awwh, I know what you mean. I went through the hardest break-up ever (two years, deep connection) last December. At that time my friends all were getting involved with different guys, which made it hard for them to empathize with me.
Watching people in love is hard when you're trying not to die of heart break :/
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thanks girl! i did enjoy my summer =]
Awwh, I know what you mean. I went through the hardest break-up ever (two years, deep connection) last December. At that time my friends all were getting involved with different guys, which made it hard for them to empathize with me.
Watching people in love is hard when you're trying not to die of heart break :/
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